October is Pregnancy Loss Awareness Month. 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in loss (miscarriage or still birth), and that’s just an estimate because so many losses go unreported or happen before a woman even knows she’s pregnant.
I have lost three babies through miscarriage. August 2013, September 2014 and August 2015. This was the first summer in 3 years that I did not get pregnant.
After my first miscarriage I didn’t know how to talk about it. I felt like I couldn’t talk about it. I was embarrassed and I didn’t want to make people feel uncomfortable.
But I needed to talk about it.
I never want anyone to feel like they have to keep their loss a secret if they don’t want to. There are certainly people out there who don’t need to talk about it and don’t want to talk about it and that is fine too. However, there are people who, like me, need to talk it out, need to express their pain, need to remember their little ones. I talk about Pregnancy Loss because when I lost that first baby I lost part of myself, I became a new person, it changed me forever and I couldn’t talk about it.
This October let’s change the way we talk about Pregnancy Loss. Let’s allow couples to open up about the very real pain of losing a child before they’re even born. Let’s stand by them as they navigate what pregnancy and parenthood means after a loss. Let’s stop making miscarriage a taboo subject. Let’s talk about it. Let’s cry about it. Let’s stand up and say, “I am 1 in 4”.